IWSC: Its How You Say It, Honey!

Welcome to IWSG‘s monthly gathering of authors who confess the truth about writing a best seller, and/or offer guidance from their wealth of trials and tribulations. Click on the link to discover more author blogs and their passions.

The awesome co-hosts for the May 1 posting of the IWSG are Lee Lowery, Juneta Key, Yvonne Ventresca, and T. Powell Coltrin!

May 1 question – What was an early experience where you learned that language had power?

That would be my first day of school. Anyone who has had to exert enormous energy to avoid crossing the path of the Cindy Beth’s of this world knows the power of words.

One of things I enjoy in writing novels is revealing the character’s thoughts through the nuances of body language, facial expressions, skin temperature and sweat, etc. If I do my job well enough, the reader knows what the character is thinking or about to say before the words fall onto the pages.

Business communication classes have helped me in my relationships with people. I’ve become more conscious of the messages I’m expressing – adjusting the tone of my voice, tilt of my head, softening of the face, shifting my shoulders forward, etc. It’s an improvement over the previous ‘me’ who tended to be very direct, a bit defensive, a carry over from always being on the run from Cindy Beth.

Animals are pros at communicating, even without words they readily share their wishes and feelings.

15 thoughts on “IWSC: Its How You Say It, Honey!

  1. That’s cool that you’ve used communication classes to increase your success in the workplace. I teach a lot of those classes, so it’s great to know they actually help.


    1. Yes, those sessions were an eye opener. And it has influenced my writing a great deal. I think that’s why I don’t like talking on the phone as much as my friends do. I miss the visual cues. Thank you for stopping by and commenting, jmh. Blessings


    1. Hi Teresa. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. From my perspective, I wonder if humans are reluctant to express their softer side, perhaps fearing rejection or being dismissed for their feelings. We do a great job of putting up an image of being self assured, strong, intelligent, etc. not realizing that everyone else is just as insecure or sweet as we are, LOL. Blessings


    1. Yep, and I’m one of those who don’t like phone calls. I’d rather pop over to my friend’s home and chat. Same with business conversations. Thank you for continuing to lead our wonderful group, Alex. Blessings


  2. Lee Lowery

    The Cindy Beth of my world was named Beverly Jean. I wonder if there’s something to that precocious double name thing.

    In the working world, I was genrally described as “blunt.” I think that’s because I reached a point where I just wouldn’t tolerate the b.s. And i tired of always being the one who had to morph myself to suit other people, particularly since there never seemed to be a time when anyone morphed to suit me.

    There’s never any phony b.s. from animals. I love that about them.

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    1. So true, Lee. Once at work the manager asked me to take on the role of public relations. For one second I thought it was a great opportunity. Then I told him that it would be best if I declined as I tend to ‘shoot from the hip.’ I’m not mean but, like you, I no longer sweeten the message if it takes away from who I am and what I stand for. Blessings


  3. doreenb8

    I love the idea of communication classes. And yes, you are so right about animals. There’s a lot we can learn from them.


    1. Hi Juneta: The attendance to the communication class was required by my employer- for all employees. I arrived thinking that it was going to be boring. OMG, was I wrong! I think everyone, including teens would benefit from a communication class – the face to face interaction. And, I believe it has been useful in my writing. Thanks for stopping by Juneta. Blessings.


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